﴾ مِنْ نُطفَةٍ خلقَهُ فَقدَّره ۞ ثُمَّ السَّبِيل يسَّرَه ۞ ثُمَّ أمَاتهُ فَأقبرَه ﴿
ثلاثة آيات تختصر الحياة.
Whatever you are worried about at the moment has either not happened yet, or happened but is past to never come back. We spend days and nights thinking and living in a feeling of 'if I did this, then this would happen' and what will happen is actually unknown. The conscience of us humans is so strong that it makes the human being believe that which doesn't exist. For example if someone trust worthy says you have a lizard on you, you would feel it, and there would be this shock to get rid of it. The mind makes it real.
Why should we let the brain (which doesn't have a brain of its own) make us feel bad for that which doesn't exist? Why don't we make it feel good about that which doesn't exist? the optimal thing? Both don't exist! But we're still living in the sad reality for no reason.
The environment doesn't let us think positively. When we keep saying this over and over again like: how dare you make a mistake? Why did you make a mistake! You should never have made a mistake. Making a mistake is too bad. I don't want you to make a mistake. etc. etc. "oh glass torh dia." -- "o tum nahi kar saktay" -- "Oye pani gira na dena" etc, these kinds of attitudes make us extremely worried about making a mistake, and then we don't even try. And let alone trying, we're already afraid and worried what would happen if I did actually make a mistake because that would be the end of the world then.
What happens is, we spend many days imagining that which (even if it does happen) will happen only one day. And we feel it 365 days for that one day. That's just crazy. For example someone has some horrible relatives who he thinks will make him feel bad about something he did, or will look down upon him or be disrespectful to him when they come. Now this may happen and may not happen, and even if it does happen, its frequency could be once a year or once a month or even once a week. In each case, it is either 1 time in 365 days, or 12 times in 365 days, or 52 times in 365 days. Yet we are worried 365 times out of 365 days just because of this negative pattern of thinking.
Create your own *perfect world circle* and live inside it and don't let people enter that circle.
By My Honor and Glory, I will forgive them as long as they keep repenting..
Her cheeks were worn and sunken and her skin hugged her bones. That didn't stop her though, you could never catch her not reciting Qur'an. Always vigil in her personal prayer room Dad had set up for her. Bowing, prostrating, raising her hands in prayer. That was the way she was from dawn to sunset and back again, boredom was for others.
As for me I craved nothing more than fashion magazines and novels. I treated myself all the time to videos until those trips to the rental place became my trademark. As they say, when something becomes habit people tend to distinguish you by it. I was negligent in my responsibilities and laziness characterized my Salah.
One night, I turned the video off after a marathon three hours of watching. The adhan softly rose in that quiet night. I slipped peacefully into my blanket.
Her voice carried from her prayer room. "Yes? Would you like anything Noorah?" I said.
تكون السفن آمنة عندما تكون راسية على الموانئ، ولكن السفن لم تصنع لهذا
A ship in a harbour is safe, but that's what ships are built for.
I know its much more easy to say than doing, but they say in urdu:
...گناہ کا نقصان جب یاد آئے گا تکلیف ہو گی ... نیکی کا فائدہ جب یاد آئے گا خوشی ہو گی
Which means, whenever you're reminded of the loss due to a sin, you'll feel hurt, and whenever you remember the benefit of a good deed, you'll feel happier. And that is so true. Because to do a good deed, its not easy, its difficult. Yep, I'm going to just say the way it is. But the moment you've taken that difficult to gulp morsel of stopping yourself from that sin, or from doing that good deed, you will start feeling the happiness of it. And of course, it appears far more tempting to indulge in a sin, but as soon as its done, its sadness, and its pain begins, and stays as long as you remember that sin.
So now is the time to choose. Choose yourself if you want to be happy or hopeless.